Give Your Someday a Date

When was the last time you said yes to something on your life list?

Distinction: A bucket list is considered to be a list made up of things to do before you die, i.e: ‘kick the bucket.’ A life list is made up of things to do while you’re ALIVE. And things that make my heart beat faster should be kept somewhere special. . .not a bucket.

Back to the question…when?

It’s been awhile for me too.

“This is me. And I’m imperfect and I’m vulnerable and I’m afraid sometimes…” – Brené Brown

And then yesterday, I said yes.


To something that simultaneously terrifies and excites me.

I’m going to learn how to scuba dive.

On October 17 I’ll be joining my friend and colleague Jason Sugar of Breakthrough Adventures and two others in the water.

Jason Sugar of Breakthrough Adventures teaching scuba diving.

That’s Jason on the right teaching and sharing his passion!

Here’s why it’s a big deal…

When I was 8 years old I almost drowned, and while I don’t remember many of the details, I do remember the panic and fear of not being able to breathe.

And yet oddly, scuba diving has always been on the list of things I’d love to learn.

To be totally  honest, it’s been on the someday list (the list I think of wistfully, just like you!)

Until now.

I’ve said this before but it bears repeating,

Give your someday a date.

Mine’s October 17, 2012.

Give it a date or take it off the list and stop suffering about it.

Every time you think of it as a someday goal or look at it on your list, there’s suffering. For me it occurred as a kind of loss or grieving because I so wanted to do it but probably never would. The fear that gripped me when I was 8 had a tight hold on this dream and it was looking like it would never happen.

Until now.

Am I scared? Yes.

Excited? Oh. My. God. YES!

But more than that? I’ve restored my integrity with myself by saying yes to something I’ve so long desired.

“You are in integrity when the life you are living on the outside matches who you are on the inside.” – Alan Cohen

Best of all, I get to say, fuck you someday! 

And that makes me very, very happy.