“You want what you want, whether or not you think you can get it.” – Robert Fritz
How do you need to be thinking to go after your dreams and produce results?
All human behaviour is the result of state, so the first requirement is to be in a resourceful state, ie: a positive mood.
And when you’re not, you need to consciously choose it.
Because the truth is most of the time you have a choice.
Staying in a negative spin and doing nothing is a choice. You know it doesn’t feel good, but in the moment of choosing you’re doing the best you can.
How do I know? When you have better options you make better choices. I’m saying that not to let you off the hook for being responsible in your life, but rather to encourage you to have compassion for yourself when hindsight reminds you of a less than stellar choice you’ve made.
And it’s not about never having negative feelings. That’s ridiculous; everybody goes there sometimes. The key is not to stay there.
So the power then lies in choosing a resourceful state.
Here’s one way to do so:
1. Think of someone who loves or appreciates you, and imagine them standing in front of you.
2. See yourself through their eyes. What do they say about you? Notice in detail what they love and appreciate about you.
3. Really feel those positive feelings. Know that you are loved and appreciated exactly as you are.
From this place of feeling good, think of your dream or a specific result you’re after.
Now take one action to move that dream forward.
Repeat often until the desired dream or result is produced.
We all need this reminder that it’s not rocket science.
When I recently said yes to confronting my fear of deep water I made a new choice.
After years of letting myself be stopped by the fear (it left me feeling helpless and completely unresourceful when it came to being in water) I chose to take one action to breakthrough this fear. That one action lead to another, and then another until before I knew it I was in the deep end of the pool with scuba gear breathing calmly under water and having the time of my life.
Does that scare me? Hell yeah! Is it going to stop me? Not a chance.
All I have to do is close my eyes and remember my diving coach’s encouragement and acknowledgement to know that I can do it.
Want what you want => Get resourceful => Take one new action.
You and I are the same in our humanity. We don’t have to be stopped by fear and limiting beliefs.
We can, with the right support and a resourceful state, do anything. . .so why not take on one of your someday dreams?
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.” – H. Jackson Brown Jr.