Leaning Into Discomfort

 

Welcome to the discomfort zone.

A place you visit infrequently for all too short periods of time.

Today however, we’re going to get comfortable with discomfort.

Is that even possible?

It absolutely is when you lean into discomfort instead of resisting.

palm trees, Kihei, Maui

It takes leaning into it intentionally because mostly, we’ll do anything to avoid discomfort.

“Discomfort means you’re doing something that others were unlikely to do, because they’re hiding out in the comfortable zone.” – Seth Godin

 Einstein said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.”

I say discomfort is a result of doing something new.

Every time you say yes to something new, discomfort arises. 

And resistance is never far behind.

Your resistance will look like reasons:

  • why you shouldn’t move forward
  • why it was a bad idea in the first place
  • why you should go back to what you were doing before.

So many reasons lulling you to sleep and inaction.

Your lizard brain is like that; it will say anything to get you to stop.

Except, you keep having these thoughts and dreams. . .

Dreams so wondrous they make your heart race.

Trust those dreams, and yourself to take the next step.

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.” – M. Scott Peck

 

How do you become comfortable with discomfort? 

1. Breathe.

inhale to get through the discomfort, photo of the Sunshine Coast

Stop the doing and the thinking and just breathe. Feel whatever is going on in your body and breathe into it. Five slow, deep breaths will make all the difference.

 

2. Take your time. 

Your dreams may take more time to realize than you think. But when you take consistent action on what’s important to you, you can’t help but move forward. You will start to produce results. Stop rushing about, and take more time.

“A good way to rid one’s self of a sense of discomfort is to do something. That uneasy, dissatisfied feeling is actual force vibrating out of order; it may be turned to practical account by giving proper expression to its creative character.” – William Morris

 

3. Calm down.

You can’t take consistent action if you’re stressed and constantly berating yourself. Do 5 minutes of something relaxing or fun before getting to work. 5 minutes will not throw off your day. Just do it 😉

“Any change, even a change for the better is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts.” – Arnold Bennett

 

4. Focus.

Houseboat village, Langley, BC

Overwhelm is a slippery slope that is like fuel to the fire of discomfort. Stop. Choose one thing to work on and do only that until it is complete.

 

5. Set a timer.

This might sound a bit crazy but set the timer for 5-10 minutes and let yourself feel the discomfort. Notice you’re still alive, and nothing bad happened. Discomfort is not necessarily what you think it is.

“Emotional discomfort, when accepted, rises, crests and falls in a series of waves. Each wave washes a part of us away and deposits treasures we never imagined.” – Martha Beck

The feelings that arise alongside discomfort are valuable, for they provide information. They let you know when you need to slow down, refocus, and sometimes, make new choices.

 

And remember…

‎”The little things? The little moments? They aren’t little.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn

It’s the little things and moments that turn your dreams into reality.