In speaking with a client recently, I was reminded yet again how little we accept ourselves.
We reject and judge those parts of ourselves that fall short – of perfection, and comparison.
We blame and beat ourselves up – for being vulnerable and human.
And what does it get us?
Exhaustion, dissatisfaction, and a general malaise in life.
Your one precious life.
The more we tolerate the self-recrimination, the more we struggle. The more we struggle, the less we accept ourselves, and the vicious circle continues.
But what if…
- you accepted (and even loved) the parts of yourself you judge
- you viewed these parts of yourself from a place of compassion
- and what if you held these parts close, allowing them to become integrated in a way that feels sacred?
This IS possible.
You have to be willing to break the cycle, and interrupt long-held patterns. You also have to decide that yes, change is possible.
It’s not only possible…it’s likely.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU LET FEAR STOP YOU?
Just like you, I have felt confronted in life.
I’ve faced some hard truths in my life and work the past year. I found myself spinning round and round, paralyzed by the fear of sharing the most important change I’ve experienced in my career.
Even though I knew firsthand how powerful this change was - I let fear stop me.
- Fear of what you would think.
- Fear of being perceived as a flake.
- Fear of judgment, instilled in me by others, not even my own fear to begin with.
I felt vulnerable and afraid, and the fear slid in making itself at home.
But what happens when you suppress something that is truly important to you? What happens when you hold yourself back at the cost of making the difference you’re here to make?
Sooner or later, the pressure cooker will blow.
Sooner or later, you’ve got to say FUCK IT and honour what’s true for you.
Sooner or later you’ve got to embrace what you’re most afraid of.
And so I did.
What was my greatest fear?
What was that big scary thing that had been slowing me down?
This: That you’ll think I’ve lost my mind and embraced the woo.
Woo woo…you know what I mean, right?
EMBRACING THE WOO
adj: concerned with emotions, mysticism, or spiritulism; other than rational or scientific; mysterious; new agey.
Deepak Chopra says that woo woo is “…a derogatory reference to almost any form of unconventional thinking, aimed by professional skeptics who are self-appointed vigilantes dedicated to the suppression of curiosity.”
Suppression of curiousity?
That is like suppressing the essence of who I am, and suppression never feels good – ever.
While I was debating the dilemma of woo, I also realized the following:
- Science has always played catch-up to the woo which typically begins with creativity, curiousity, and imagination
- Embracing the woo doesn’t exclude the many years of experience and training I’ve accumulated
- Trusting what works feels better than trusting the status quo
These past months I have trusted what works, and the process has been healing in a way I’d never imagined.
“Healing is not a science, but the intuitive art of wooing nature.” - W.H. Auden
Imagine wooing yourself to a place of self-acceptance.
Dare I say, even self-love?
The process I went through also created space.
- Space for healing in all areas of mind, body, and spirit.
- Space for producing unprecedented results in life and business.
- Space to discover what’s most important, and of highest value and meaning to me – and ultimately, to my clients.
- Space to develop mastery with the Freedom Sessions.
This work is currently confronting many old paradigms in the personal development world because it’s producing results in fewer sessions, and with more long-term effectiveness.
Why do we think change has to take a long time?
If your body can store memories, emotions, and negative feelings in an instant, it can also release them in the same way. But somehow we’ve come to the collective conclusion that this can’t happen. That we have to spend hours and years, talking about our traumas in order to heal the wounds.
What if this doesn’t have to be true?
Let that sink in.
“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” - Albert Einstein
And consider this…
Suggesting such a fundamental shift in the coaching relationship at first glance means fewer sessions, less long-term commitment and consequently, less income.
If people reach permanent and positive change in fewer sessions, they will need far less of my time.
So why would I do this? Sounds a bit crazy, yeah?
But it also means more satisfied clients living more fulfilled lives, which leads to many more referrals – and an even more fulfilled coach.
And people are experiencing some pretty jaw-dropping results:
“I’ve always been an anxious person but since my son was born 2 years ago it has intensified, and I’ve become obsessed with getting sick. This anxiety has become a nauseous feeling that stays with me most of the day, from the first thought I have when I wake up to the constant body scans throughout the day. I started to worry that I would need to be put on anti-anxiety medication and I really didn’t want that! Sandi led me through the Freedom Sessions, and here’s the AMAZING part – the obsessive anxiety has dissipated, and I am not consumed by worry. This has had a huge impact on how I am living life, and I now have the freedom to enjoy my son and my family without the shadow of anxiety.” – M.T.
I want this kind of result for more people, and I’m not afraid to say:
These sessions work better than anything else I’ve used with clients in 13 years of professional coaching.
WHAT DOES IT TAKE FROM YOU?
You have to want a breakthrough. Badly.
It’s not enough to want to feel better or experience some relief (although you will.)
This work is most effective with people who are frustrated and fed up with where they’ve been stuck. People who REALLY want to make a change.
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” - Maya Angelou
You have to be willing to go deep.
Think of the difference between treading water on the surface of the ocean and diving deep.
Deep is where you’ll find the pearls. Deep is where you’ll experience sweet release from painful issues that have been part of your life for way too long.
But it can be difficult, and you have to be willing to go that far.
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” - Barack Obama
You have to trust the process.
You don’t have to understand how it works. You do have to show up, trust me to guide you through the process, and be willing to let go.
I had to do this too. I had to embrace the woo, and trust the results. Science can catch up with me later.
“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” - Eckhart Tolle
When you trust, things like this happen:
“I am a skeptic who tries to suspend disbelief, but my experiences with Sandi have made me a believer even though I do not understand why it works. Quite frankly, I don’t care why or how it works because I feel exponentially better, and that’s all that matters.” – E.B.
You know how I used to go on and on about ‘someday’ thinking?
That hasn’t changed.
If you are ready for a change - I mean really, really ready - let’s talk.