“To transcend fear we must move somewhere else emotionally; we must move into love.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
We must move into love, and in doing so we make it an active choice rather than an intellectual one.
We’ve heard the call to choose love over fear.
Has it worked for you? Because I’ll admit I’m starting to get that choosing isn’t enough.
And so I did, mostly because I pride myself on walking my talk, but also because I reached out and asked for help.
Some time ago, I began thinking about shooting video, but every time I thought of it my entire being clenched, gripped by the fear of putting myself out there in a new way.
It felt dangerous and vulnerable.
I let myself feel the fear, and I even began to question it, examining it from various angles.
One day I found myself reaching out and asking a friend for support. He was brilliant in that he didn’t just give me advice on how to make videos. He showed up on my doorstep with his equipment and proceeded to record our conversation for two hours.
Two hours of facing my fear, and moving into love.
Two hours of talking about love and fear and freedom, and other topics I’m passionate about.
At some point I realized I’d almost forgotten about the cameras I was so into our conversation.
I realized that love and fear can’t coexist.
We can never feel them at the same time. It’s impossible.
I realized that choosing love is only the first step.
Moving into love must follow, an ongoing practice that breathes life into us when we most need it.
In saying yes to doing the video, I chose love over fear.
In sharing it here with you, I move into love once again.
Because to keep this to myself goes against how I want to live my life.
I want you to get, just like I did, that I’m OK exactly the way I am.
If I want to help others reclaim their freedom, I have to make the move into love, over and over and over again.
It’s not a one-time thing.
And I am reminded of Marianne Williamson’s prayer,
Help me today to choose love over fear, that I might work miracles for myself and others. Where I am tempted to attack or defend, please guide my mind to a gentler place.