What are you teaching the world?

 

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What am I teaching the world?

This morning’s Truthbomb caught me off guard.

I love what I do, and the amazing people I get to work with, but what exactly am I teaching the world?

I look back at all the courses and programs I’ve offered over twenty years, but that doesn’t fully address the essence of my work and why I do it. If I close my eyes and remember the thousands of conversations I’ve had since I first began coaching, the answer becomes clear.

I am always about freedom, expansion, and growth.

In Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl wrote, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” 

I resisted this truth in my twenties, let it in (a bit) in my thirties, and accepted it in my forties; all the while, knowing in my soul that accepting it would lead to freedom.

Acceptance finally led to embodying the truth which has made the greatest difference.

Embodying the truth that I am responsible for my experience of freedom, and that in choosing my path and my response to whatever life offers, I can feel free regardless of the circumstances.

I don’t mean freedom in a do-whatever-you-want kind of way, although I love that too.

I mean freedom to create and live my life in a way that feels good, and right, and perfect for me.

This has been the thread in every course, every offer, and every coaching conversation I’ve ever had.

I am here to help you expand love and freedom in any area of your life where you currently experience struggle and constraints.

Today’s cards said much the same.

Feeling free, devotion, one step (one choice) at a time, expansion and growth.

What am I teaching the world?

I teach that freedom is always possible.

I teach that love and freedom go together.

I teach that devotion and practice are the keys.

I teach that expansion and growth are inevitable.

“We do not ask life what the meaning of life is. Life asks us, what is the meaning of your life. And life demands our answer.” – Viktor Frankl

 

Today’s message:

Truthbomb: What are you teaching the world?
Tarot: Ace of Wands, a new beginning of energy and intiative
Ascended Masters: King Solomon, Priorities, devotion to what’s important
Gods & Goddesses: Bhumi, Mother Earth, expansion and growth
Core Desired Feelings: Spacious + Free

 

Start with Love

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I’m in the midst of wrapping up a 100 day program, creating the May Promise, planning a Desire Map workshop in Vancouver, and launching The Coach Approach, my new online program.

It’s spring and it feels like everything is bursting with life.

I love the energy of creation and growth, as it reminds me to prioritize, amplify my daily practices, and do more of what feels good.

It’s a timely reminder for me because I am prone to putting my head down and slogging it out. I’ve come to realize it’s not healthy or sustainable, and I’ve decided it’s no longer an option.

My soul is asking me to act on something bigger and more meaningful than getting things done.

Feeling good has become non-negotiable, which is what happens when you make it a priority.

As I look at the cards I pulled this morning, I am reminded to start with love.

To love myself as I work hard.

To love the work I am creating.

To love the people I am creating it for.

 

Today’s message:

Truthbomb: Start with love
Tarot: Ace of Pentacles, a symbol of possibility and new beginning
Core Desired Feelings: Cherished + True

 

You’re in Charge of Your Own Healing

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You are in charge of your own healing.

It’s that simple, and that challenging.

It’s a challenge I know well after my own experience dealing with chronic joint pain.

Like most people, I began with the external and it made some difference. After a year of what seemed like endless chiropractic visits, bottles of Ibuprofen, and a lot of positive thinking, I felt a little bit better – and that pissed me off.

A year of time, money, and energy I barely had, and I only felt a little bit better.

I couldn’t figure it out. I was committed, doing what I was told to do, and still mostly feeling lousy.

Until one day I realized something huge…

I hate being told what to do.

I had given up responsibility for my own healing by relying on the external. I had given up any sense of power I had as I swallowed my intuition and focused on what others said.

That was hard for me to admit, but as soon as I did I began to feel better.

When I chose my core desired feeling Cherished it became the anchor to feeling good, and it helped me stop looking outside of myself for the answers.

Cherished helped me trust myself and I began to take better actions which inevitably led to feeling better in my body.

We are responsible for the choices we make, and we have the power to heal.

That’s not a blanket statement about ignoring traditional medical treatment, but for me, I had to choose how I wanted to feel first, and in that choice and commitment to feeling cherished, I took back my power.

I decided to be in charge of my healing.

I decided how I wanted to feel in my body.

I became very clear about what was essential and non-negotiable.

And I gave myself permission to do it my way.

It wasn’t the right way. It was the way that worked for me.

Today’s message:

Truthbomb: you are healing
Ascended Masters: Moses, take charge of the situation
Core Desired Feeling: Cherished

My Morning Ritual

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My mornings always begin the same.

Coffee in bed, dog at my feet, and a quick scan of emails and notifications. Contrary to what the experts say, this quick scan puts my mind at ease, and then I can get on with what really fuels my day: my morning ritual.

The ritual is the same every day, and in that sameness something deep and meaningful happens. I reveal what’s most important, a message coming straight from my soul. I may not always like the message, but inevitably as I sit with it I begin to see the lesson or break through the resistance.

The ritual begins with getting quiet. Some days I meditate, and some days I simply sit in the silence.

My favourite aspect of meditation is that it always plugs me into my core desired feeling, Spacious, and once that connection is made I pull a card from my Truthbomb deck as a way through the surface thoughts to the unexplored area of my subconscious. The thoughts and insights that come from this deeper place, I write in my Desire Map journal, a witness to my experience.

I write whatever comes through. No plan, no direction; just what flows given the opening I’ve created through the ritual.

The image above is an example, and there’s something about documenting the process with a photo that pulls it all together for me.

Today’s message:

Truthbomb: you heal me
Ascended Masters: Aengus, a Celtic God
Core Desired Feeling: Cherished

After a bit of reading on Aengus, I let myself wonder how this card relates to the Truthbomb, “you heal me”. Aengus is a Celtic god who helps soul mates and twin flames find each other. It’s said that the twin flame is the deepest form of love, and to form such a partnership you have to follow your own inner guidance, learn personal growth lessons, and have patience with divine timing.

Which led me here:

What if we are meant to be our own twin flame?

What if this is how we truly heal?

It’s common to look outside of ourselves for that one perfect soul mate, but what if our work is to be that for ourselves? Stop for a moment, and let that in.

Imagine a partnership with yourself in which you followed your inner wisdom, learned life lessons at a soul level, and developed patience with the divine and its timing.

My morning ritual is what makes new thoughts like this possible.

What’s important is to realize that this is not the best ritual. It’s the ritual that works for me.

Then I practice it daily until it becomes an act of devotion.

 

Practice is an invitation to the future

The Creative Habit by Martha Graham, a book I devoured like a delicious meal.

“I believe that we learn by practice. Whether it means to learn to dance by practicing dancing or to learn to live by practicing living, the principles are the same. In each, it is the performance of a dedicated precise set of acts, physical or intellectual, from which comes shape of achievement, a sense of one’s being, a satisfaction of spirit.” – Martha Graham

It reminded me that life is simple, and we complicate it. A lot.

Because whether it’s becoming more creative, or doing the work to change something that’s not working in your life, the essential ingredient, practice, is simple.

And most of the time, it’s not that easy.

This is an invitation to practice. 

Not for perfection, or external validation, but for deep, inner transformation.

“Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, of faith, of desire. Practice is a means of inviting the perfection desired.” – Martha Graham

Practice because that’s what it takes.

To keep your word, and honour your promises to yourself, others, and life – an invitation to the future.

What helps is to shift your perspective.

From boring and routine, to devotion and ritual, an acknowledgement of your soul’s desire.

Because that’s what it is when you make a promise to yourself.

Your soul is asking you to act on something bigger and more meaningful than what you’re currently experiencing.

The 100 Day Promise was how I responded to my soul, and in doing so I created a new future for myself.

That’s what I want for you.

Say yes now, and join me in the upcoming 100 day journey.

The theme for January 2016 is Living Abundance.

What could you create given 100 days and the right kind of support?

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This Most Amazing Day

 

e.e. cummings quote on image taken at Ruby Lake Resort, BC

Some days I don’t feel grateful.

I feel sullen and resentful, and a bit let down by this thing called Life.

Some days the pull towards the negative is like a strong undercurrent doing its best to pull me under.

I hear it often in my work, but I do my best not to go there; not to talk about it myself.

But the truth is, we all have those days, and moments in life that frustrate the hell out of us.

We all consider giving up at some point.

Until the choice becomes clear.

We can relax and let ourselves be pulled down into the deep, dark waters or. . .

We can refuse to succumb.

We can choose to find some small way to feel better, and reverse the flow of energy.

It’s not as difficult as we think:

  • a walk in nature
  • your toes in the ocean
  • acknowledging your yearnings
  • time with yourself and your journal
  • connecting with a loved one

Feeding your soul in any way that feels good to you.

Start there, and each small step or action will lead you slowly but surely back into resourcefulness.

 

Notice the Good

 

“I have noticed that people are dealing too much with the negative, with what is wrong… Why not try the other way, to see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?” – Thich Nhat Hanh

I’ve put my attention on noticing the good.

This noticing gives me a different feeling than the practice of gratitude.

Like a shiver running up my spine. Or a tingle of delight.

Gratitude often feels forced, like something I should do.

Yes, I know it makes a difference.

Wait…does it make a difference if it feels like a should?

Not so much.

I want a practice that feels real.

One that feels human, and connective. Satisfying.

And simple.

Notice

I don’t need a list of instructions:

  • do it first thing in the morning
  • no wait, do it before bed
  • write it down
  • meditate on it
  • share it
  • no wait, keep it to yourself
  • savour it
  • be authentic
  • no wait, list 5 things every single day

I just want it to feel good.

I want to look around and notice the goodness of life, as if I were wearing good-coloured glasses.

Like a child playing “I spy with my little eye.”

I notice the good. . .

  • that first sip of coffee in the morning
  • a whiff of spring in the air
  • connecting with a stranger
  • a heartfelt thank you
  • the love bombs that come and go
  • that not-quite-asleep-am-I-meditating-or-dreaming state
  • closeness, connection, comfort

Noticing the good feels good.

It’s healing, and like a meditation practice simpler than you think.

When you notice what’s working, what’s inspiring, what’s enjoyable – your experience of it expands.

Noticing is an inside job. That makes a difference when you let it out.

So I’m noticing. And practicing, because sometimes the simple practices are the most challenging.

Keeping it simple, keeping it real.

Noticing the good.

 

 

Everything is practice

 

Sometimes I am blinded by the light.

My light.

Sometimes I go to a dark and scary neighbourhood.

In my head.

It’s bleak in there.

I do my best not to visit very often, but sometimes?

The pull is magnetic.

It’s a slippery slope once I’m there, but over the years I’ve discovered a few ways to pull myself out of the dark and off the slope.

 

How to Resist the Pull

1.  Unplug

I step away. From my laptop and phones. I turn off all the ringers, bells and whistles. Simple? Yes. Easy to do? Not so much.

But here’s the thing – it works every time.

“Every step you take is a step away from where you used to be.” – Brian Chargualaf

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